Sexless (straight) marriages
John Thompson 
I recently found out that my sister hasn’t had sex with her husband in about a dozen years, & she’s not even 50. Yes, my family talks about everything & overshares. She’s content with the situation, it’s really her idea. I think she’s always been anti-sex since she views sex/adultery as the reason our parents broke up. She says that she hopes her husband has an affair, as it would give her grounds to divorce him.
Back before they were married & had kids, she told us the day after Valentine’s that they’d had sex the night before, & thank god she didn’t have to worry about that for 3 months. Her husband corrected her, at the dinner table in front of my mother & grandmother, that they have sex once a month like everybody else. They were In their late 20s!
I don’t get it, I’m amazed they haven’t divorced yet. My mother used to think they were “normal” but now is realizing this is really weird! Does anyone have anything similar to relate?
| by Anonymous | reply 159 | March 29, 2023 4:39 AM |
Yes, a straight friend told me that I'd be amazed how many marriages are like this. Quite a few amongst her friends.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 4, 2021 8:20 AM |
Sounds like most gay marriages I know. The only difference is, gay men have open marriages. One is on Grindr, the other on Scruff.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 4, 2021 8:24 AM |
The wife of a famous performer whom I happen to know personally “closed shop” (no more sex) 15 years ago and since then, he’s been allowed to have mistresses. He just can’t flaunt them, because it wouldn’t bode well with Hollywood wives.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 4, 2021 8:28 AM |
I am 72 and in a sexless marriage, but not by choice. My 81-year-old husband was never much of a stud even when he was younger. He had frequent problems with impotence, which I suspect was due to anxiety. I didn't mind at first because we've always had a strong emotional connection. Also, I assumed things would get better in time. But instead it went the other way. When he turned 50 and started having cardiac issues, the meds he took for that made the problem even worse. So he just gave up on sex and wouldn't even try any more.
When Viagra first came out, it seemed like the answer to my prayers. I made an appointment with a urologist, who prescribed it for him. I had such high hopes that maybe our sex life would resume, but sadly, Viagra didn't help. That was over 20 years ago. I went through a mourning period, weeping silently into my pillow while he snored, but I am now resigned to a sexless marriage. I take care of my own needs in private.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 4, 2021 8:43 AM |
This is an example of Jake Tapper’s marriage.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 4, 2021 8:45 AM |
OP how old are you that this sort of thing is news? Why do you think some married persons had separate bedrooms (something that is coming back by the way..)
People marry or married for a host of reasons, everything from family or personal avarice to one or both partners being gay and needing a beard.
For ages marriage was the only option open to women. It was their lot in life and preferred career choice deemed acceptable by society. So if the thing was going to happen women often made best of their lot. Married, produced one or more heirs, then let their husbands know they've "paid their dues", and closed up shop.
By laws all over Europe and United States at one time a wife legally couldn't refuse her husband. So locking him out of her bedroom or otherwise refusing to do her wifely duty lead to "constructive abandonment" which was grounds for divorce. This is what Rhett Butler refers to when Scarlett tells him not only doesn't she want to have anymore children, but doesn't want to sleep with her husband again, period.
Some husbands didn't care, they simply either took their pleasures elsewhere, or did without.
Mind you this largely applied to upper classes where people could afford homes large enough for two master bedrooms. For the middle classes in homes without children or maybe they grew up and moved out, a spouse could move into one of those vacated rooms. That or maybe the guest bedroom.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | October 4, 2021 8:59 AM |
There is no reason to marry unless you wish to have children. The whole concept is religious/political in nature designed to keep the natives under control. Most people don't know how absolutely boring child rearing is and how many years they will be devoted to the chore. You also seen the younnger people today are not rushing to fulfill the myth of happily ever after. Women can support themselves and don't want to be bogged down with responsibilities. Men have also seen the light.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 4, 2021 9:17 AM |
I don’t agree, R7.
I think most women still want to get married.
I don’t know why they bother - I don’t know of any straight men who are still attracted by their wives after 5 years of marriage. And kids are usually the kiss of death.
Life would be so much happier if people formed parenting partnerships & didn’t require or want sexual fidelity in the process. But that simply isn’t how human beings work.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 4, 2021 9:34 AM |
I don't understand people like this, if they are so unhappy together just get divorced, why punish each other and yourself? Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't make you happy.
At bear minimum if they want to stay together for the companionship/financial reasons/the kids then they should have an open relationship so they can fuck around on the side.
FFS the straights are exhausting!
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 4, 2021 9:43 AM |
Getting fucked is not always a good feeling (same for woman and bottom). Many people just simply dislike that. Also, if the man or the top is not skillful it will feel bad more than enjoyable.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 4, 2021 12:42 PM |
Sex drops off after the first child. I suspect this is more the norm than the exception.
What's the gay marriage equivalent, anyone care to venture?
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 4, 2021 1:08 PM |
R12 types like an Asian bottom.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 4, 2021 1:18 PM |
R14 Yes, I am a Asian bottom. OMG How can you tell!?
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 4, 2021 1:30 PM |
I don't think it's always the woman who stops the sex. Men get bored of it too.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 4, 2021 2:44 PM |
Op, I assume your brother-in-law is getting it elsewhere
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 4, 2021 2:44 PM |
If the (straight) couple married because they like each other, there can be a resurgence of emotion, including sex, in the empty nest. But you have to wonder if most people didn't get married just for practical purposes and eventually go yuck. Many people can make that work, though, if they'd be honest about the distance and resolve to be polite and respectful. The problem is a failed marriage probably also signifies other life failures which leads to bitterness and frustration.
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 4, 2021 2:49 PM |
People can get tired of fucking each other but still love each other and want to be together. Some people cheat or choose to be in an open relationship, but if you're busy with your work or raising children you may just not have the energy to hunt down and fuck other people. As one married straight female friend put it, "Why would I want to take care of TWO men?"
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 4, 2021 2:51 PM |
NO one wants to have sex with a fatty--which is what everyone becomes after a decade of marriage
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 4, 2021 3:38 PM |
R20 I don’t get this, I’d rather have a man with an extra 30 lbs than a toothpick-legged skinny guy.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 4, 2021 3:42 PM |
The difference between OP's sister and most of the straight marriages other people are describing is that OP's sister wants to divorce her husband but she's too scared to do it on the simple grounds that she wants out and is hoping he has an affair so she can divorce him on those grounds.
They also didn't enjoy sex with each other even before they married. They should never have married.
Straight people do have sex after they marry and have kids - in one flat (apartment) where I lived, we could hear the neighbours upstairs having sex early in the morning at least twice a week (thankfully not groans and sighs, just the banging bedstead).
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 4, 2021 4:01 PM |
OP you should read the /deadbedrooms subreddit. It's full of rage and misery. It makes me feel good about being terminally single !
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 4, 2021 4:21 PM |
oh who cares, none of your business OP
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 4, 2021 5:08 PM |
After dealing with work and kids, everyone is exhausted.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 4, 2021 5:42 PM |
I can't stand young women saying "Ahhhhhh If I could go back, I'd never do it" or old couples fighting 24/7 but staying together because "I don't wanna get my own place and have to pay rent for the first time in 40 years". REALLY makes you wonder why many people even married in the first place. It feels so unnatural and forced at times so many people never did it out of love, not even in their 20s. Marriage is a completely outdated institution that should be abolished, or at least it should be made really difficult to get to that stage. Just last week I found out about a couple I know who were the love-dovey types from 2006 to 2017, got hitched in 2018 and divorced by 2021. Can't fucking even
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | May 16, 2022 1:37 PM |
I’m gay and haven’t had sex in ages. Mainly because I’m ugly but c’est la vie. It makes you think how many people are sex-obsessed and actually shouldn’t be in a relationship because that’s all they think about…sex. To not obsess about getting laid is a freeing experience.
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | May 16, 2022 1:44 PM |
It's 2022
OP's sister does not need her husband to have an affair to divorce him.
No mention of their financial situation or what they do for a living--would she be okay financially on her own?
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | May 16, 2022 1:52 PM |
My marriage isn’t sexless but it’s not very full of sex. I love my husband with my whole heart. He’s brilliant & I still find him very attractive. But we have young kids & frankly, it’s just very low priority. By the time we’ve worked all day, battled them into bed, done some life admin jobs & eaten dinner ourselves, we are exhausted. We watch a bit of TV & then go to sleep! Kids have us up at 6am. I also find it really hard to switch from mum mode to sexy wife mode when the kids are asleep about 10 steps away from us. Mentally, that’s tough for me!
When we have sex, it’s great. We talk openly about everything in our lives including sex and are both on the same page. Hopefully in another couple years time, there’ll be a bit more freedom as the kids start having play dates elsewhere & parties we can leave them at etc!
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | May 16, 2022 1:52 PM |
Once they have children, women are not interested in sex. That's the plain truth.
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | May 16, 2022 1:56 PM |
R30, relying on his vast storehouse of knowledge about sex with women
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | May 16, 2022 1:58 PM |
Sexless gay marriages are more a relevant topic for discussion on this site, surely?
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | May 16, 2022 2:02 PM |
[quote]Yes, my family talks about everything & overshares
I'm so jealous, everybody in my life undershares. So whenever I overshare even the tiniest bit, I look like some raging gossipy freak.
| by Anonymous | reply 33 | May 16, 2022 2:05 PM |
And let's not forget about old couples like my parents who fight every nanosecond (obviously haven't had sex in ages), yet still won't break up because they're too old or the house or whatever. I wonder why some people even tied the knot in the first place, how they even brought themselves to fuck each other back then. Like, did they even ever like each other at all? As in find each other attrattive? If not, why do it? Straight people are so fucked weird
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | March 13, 2023 10:04 PM |
I've been in relationships where the sex dwindles down to almost nothing. It happens in most relationships, but it's also a big indicator that there is something wrong. In the case of the guy upthread who cried into his pillow, your partner couldn't even be bothered to give you a BJ or a hand job once a week? Get the fuck out.
I like being single now that I'm getting older. I know far too many couples right now who are miserable but stay together. I'm frankly tired of hearing about their woes. Get the fuck out and stop crying about it. Life is too short to be with someone who makes you misterable.
| by Anonymous | reply 35 | March 13, 2023 10:17 PM |
There doesn't have to be "something wrong" for sex to disappear from a relationship if there's still good companionship, tenderness, affection, communication and common goals. It's normal for sex to dwindle. It's also normal (but risky) for people to seek satisfaction outside of the marriage.
| by Anonymous | reply 36 | March 13, 2023 10:25 PM |
You've described "friendship" r36. That's all fine and great, but the state of a relationship can always be traced to what happens in the sex part. I have plenty of friends. I don't want to live with a friend. I want to live with someone who I love and who will have sex with me. Once that part dies, there is no point in staying, especially if the couple is fighting constantly or they stop having respect for each other.
| by Anonymous | reply 37 | March 13, 2023 11:11 PM |
Monogomy is unnatural. Look around -- other than some (not all) of the birds, who mates for life?
| by Anonymous | reply 38 | March 13, 2023 11:36 PM |
r37 But they stay because they bought a house together and one of them would have to pay rent for the first time ever. Talk about love!
| by Anonymous | reply 39 | March 13, 2023 11:42 PM |
Don't know this for sure, but I suspect my parents only fuck a handful of times a year. They're in their 60s, they're pretty ugly and tired by now, they're settled into boring unfulfilling albeit secure routine, they do a lot of work and also help care for my Mom's Mom (who just will not fucking die). Though not religious or prudish, they were also never the most outgoing and social nor sexual people, vanilla marrying in their 20s and not really looking elsewhere or expanding their horizons afaik. They kept it absolutely locked down and secret if they were ever into anything but obligatory missionary every few months (and one of them was always at home with us kids at any one time, so). I know my Dad likes p0rn but he's not an addict. Maybe he did cheat in the past and just hid his tracks really well, idk--my Mom clearly never cared enough to investigate or worry about it. But they still seem basically content with one another.
| by Anonymous | reply 40 | March 14, 2023 12:14 AM |
Senator Chris Murphy definitely has a sexless marriage.
His ugly wife looks like a horse 🐴
| by Anonymous | reply 41 | March 14, 2023 12:23 AM |
R33 that's rough. I'm a cagey, loner undersharer lesbian in a family full of two-faced gossipy fucks. I can't stand it. I've learned that I can't tell these creeps anything, or have to lie or understate it massively (make it seem too boring to address) in order to get them off my back and out of my business. Like I have literally overheard phone conversations between my grandmother and my uncles or aunts and between my cousins about the state of my health and career, it's unfuckingbelievable. And fr I'm not even an interesting or scandalous or famous and gorgeous person, the type one would naturally want to gossip about. I don't get it. It's like if someone is even slightly different or deviates from an expected standard or timeline, everyone has to twilight bark.
| by Anonymous | reply 42 | March 14, 2023 12:25 AM |
R3 or that’s what he tells the women so he doesn’t have to do more than bang them. Haaaaaaa.
| by Anonymous | reply 43 | March 14, 2023 12:28 AM |
Marriages of convenience - either from the start or evolved - are poisonous.
| by Anonymous | reply 44 | March 14, 2023 12:31 AM |
Oh God, my mother told me that they'd stopped having sex after my youngest brother was born, that was the point where she'd had it with birthing kids. My father was sitting there saying nothing, as she talked over him in public and humiliated him for the billionth time, and I sat there waiting for her to say that she'd always hated being a parent, as has always been obvious, but then the waiter came to take our orders.
My parents are in their 80s and still together, and give every sign of still being very much in love. I don't want to know what the hell keeps them together, I just want to keep thousands of miles between us. This family is just too fucked up.
| by Anonymous | reply 45 | March 14, 2023 1:04 AM |
There aren't many topics that interest me less than whether a married couple still fucks. The older I get, the more I suspect that most assumptions about such things are false, and that we're prone to drawing conclusions about other people's private lives that conform to our own prejudices.
I also think you often get an incomplete story when one spouse bitches about the other in private, especially if infidelity was involved.
| by Anonymous | reply 46 | March 14, 2023 1:27 AM |
R44
Most politicians have marriages of convenience; that’s why they all cheat.
| by Anonymous | reply 47 | March 14, 2023 7:13 AM |
Convenience store marriages so sad
| by Anonymous | reply 48 | March 14, 2023 8:12 AM |
[quote] She says that she hopes her husband has an affair, as it would give her grounds to divorce him.
This is the most disturbing thing about that. She's not attracted to him and doesn't even want to be with him, would be happy with a divorce but he has to do something bad first? That's some messed up reasoning.
| by Anonymous | reply 49 | March 14, 2023 8:19 AM |
How could you be with someone and not sleep with them?
| by Anonymous | reply 50 | March 14, 2023 8:24 AM |
R50 Check out reddit's 'deadbedrooms'. I read it out of curiosity for a while and it doesn't seem to be uncommon. Seems like usually one or both partners stop wanting to have sex but they stay together out of convenience, because they're like housemates/friends, because they have kids, because one partner can't let go and thinks the other will start wanting sex again (almost never happens), etc.
| by Anonymous | reply 51 | March 14, 2023 8:32 AM |
[quote]How could you be with someone and not sleep with them?
Easily.
| by Anonymous | reply 52 | March 14, 2023 9:09 AM |
I’m OP & just saw this thread got bumped. It’s been about 18 months since I originally posted this & things are still the same.
What I don’t get is that they sleep in the same bed & haven't had sex for about 15 years now. I used to joke that the last time they did it was when she got pregnant with her younger son—but it turns out I was right! My sister actually brags about this, not in front of hubby, but claims he doesn’t like sex either.
My mother also hasn’t had sex in about 25 yrs, not really by choice. But she’s much more sec-positive than my sister. Mom even said that she & my dad had sex right up until they separated & he moved out. She “dated” one guy (married) who was kinda the love of her life, but that fizzled.
The other thing I don’t get is that even though they’re very anti-sex (I jokingly call them the Frigid Bitches & imagine them as a rap duo a la Salt n’Pepa), they talk about sex all the damn time & are very critical. My sister almost walked out of an R-rated movie & wanted her money back because a penis was shown (yes, she’s a Karen). My mother told her, hey, women have been nude onscreen for forever, so it’s only fair. Sis said women are one thing but penises are the most disgusting thing ever. (No, she’s not a closeted lesbian or anything). My mother calls my sister a slut (behind her back) bc she’s had about 10 long term monogamous relationships compared to Mom’s 2. Mom asked me, in earnest, if I was a prostitute, bc she knew I had an active sex life.
Not to psychoanalyze my sister, but her last serious relationship pre-marriage was with the love of her life, it lasted about a year or so when they were mid-20s, & he stopped having sex with her before they broke up; she caught him in the shower masturbating, & that was that. After complaining to our mother about it, Mom asked me if people masturbate. I said yes, duh, & she countered with: but not people in relationships—that’s what their partner is for. (I mean, seriously.) She also said that there must be something wrong with him to do that (cheat on my sis with himself); they’d both wondered if the bf was gay. The shower episode made my mother conclude that he must be. (!!!!)
The craziest thing of all though is that they view themselves as totally normal & think everyone else has a problem.
| by Anonymous | reply 53 | March 14, 2023 9:31 AM |
OP/R53 not to contradict your..er..established lore, but your sister really might be closeted or be in flux with her sexuality (hence why she seems stalled). It might be that her internal feelings and processes about all this remain a secret, to family or even to herself.
Because it’s practically a cliché that middle-aged/empty nester women lose interest in sex with men and with men in general pre-menopause—often because they’ve been Mom and maid to said men as well as their kids for years—but when they meet another woman with whom they connect and whom they trust, their sexuality blossoms and grows again.
| by Anonymous | reply 54 | March 14, 2023 1:50 PM |
Answering my own question about who (besides birds) mates for life? The shingleback lizards of Australia (very rare reptile behavior)!
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 55 | March 14, 2023 3:12 PM |
Why don’t straight women want to fuck their old fat bald bitchy infantile sloppy red skinned pig husbands? It’s a mystery to me.
| by Anonymous | reply 56 | March 14, 2023 3:15 PM |
R56 Often times, they're old, fat and bitchy themselves 🙄
| by Anonymous | reply 57 | March 14, 2023 5:11 PM |
I cant tell you the number of times Ive heard straight men bitch about lack of sex. As someone said,kids are the death knell to a sex life . I also cant tell you the number of times Ive heard men say this wish they;d never gotten married or had kids. Having known many straight women ,the guys have a valid complaint. Rare has been the couples Ive known who were truly happy and still in love. Marriage is the one thing I never thought a gay man would ever want.
| by Anonymous | reply 58 | March 14, 2023 5:54 PM |
R23 yes DeadBedrooms! On morning I wake up feeling pathetic about being single or lonely or hard up, I love giving that a schadenfreude scroll with my coffee. Cheers me right up.
These poor people are mostly all in therapy, scheduling sex around work and kids etc., fretting about being ugly or passionless or inept and somehow not enough, every single day and night, because they live with their sex partner and sex has become an obligation. Just thinking about it is horrifying. I already live with enough neurosis about myself, I can't imagine moving an entire extra human in with me who has a fuckton more of their own and trying to deal with that, too.
Non co-habiting sex, partnering and parenting is honestly the way forward, I don't know why more people don't do it. Even if I was having great sex with someone I wanted to keep in my life, like fuck would I live with them. I'll just meet up with them in person every few days or a few times a week, and use tech to stay in touch daily. You do not need to see or touch someone daily to love them deeply and honestly, especially if good trust is there.
| by Anonymous | reply 59 | March 14, 2023 6:01 PM |
[quote]You do not need to see or touch someone daily to love them deeply and honestly, especially if good trust is there.
r59 Dude, I'm a super introverted loner and even I know this isn't a normal way to conduct a committed relationship with someone. A friend, sure. But a partner? Come on, now. If that's what works for you, fine. But most people do not function this way. You are in the minority and, thus, an outlier.
| by Anonymous | reply 60 | March 14, 2023 6:06 PM |
R53 Seriously asking, but was your sister sexually abused at one point in her life? It’s pitiable that someone would have such a negative view of normal sexuality. Even with the love of her life, so what if he was masturbating? Maybe the mood hit him, if you “caught” him, why not join in? It isn’t that hard to figure out.
Also, your sister sounds like a selfish cunt. That’s a problem with women today. They’re selfish, corpulent and neurotic. They don’t make the slightest effort for sex or give it a chance and their bodies are failing them with the extra poundage. Even if you’re tired, why not let the partner do it with you anyways? How hard is it to be open to the possibility that you may enjoy it after all? And if it wasn’t great, oh well, at least you were intimate.
| by Anonymous | reply 61 | March 14, 2023 6:14 PM |
R61 As somebody already mentioned, getting fucked is not pleasant if you are not aroused. If the vagina doesn't get wet enough, it is probably painful.
| by Anonymous | reply 62 | March 14, 2023 6:20 PM |
Gay man here in my 50s and have several married straight female friends, acquaintances, and relatives, many of whom love to overshare. At least based on what most of these women tell me, sex does kind of go out the door for many straight married couples after having kids. Many of the women I know who are in their 40s and 50s just lose interest. I have one friend who is always talking about going to the doctor for hormone replacement therapy because she has pretty much zero sex drive, but she never does go.
As others have mentioned, people get married for all kinds of reasons. I have one friend who is very practical. Prior to getting married, she and her husband (her then-boyfriend) broke up, well she broke up with him, because she met another guy who really attracted her and made her realize that although she loved her boyfriend, he didn't really excite her sexually like the other guy. Well a couple months after breaking up with her now husband, and telling us about all the great, exciting sex she was having, the other guy dumped her and pretty much ghosted her. I didn't know the guy who dumped her, but others in our circle told me he loved banging a chick for a month or two or three, then he'd drop them with no contact. She went back to her ex because he was more stable and they got married a couple years later.
She's told me now that although she loves her husband, she mainly married him because she knew he'd be a good husband and father. She preferred stability after her experience with the other guy. As I mentioned, she's very practical. She's told me and others in our circle that their sex life pretty much stopped after their second child was born. They do it occasionally, but it's rare. The joke is he gets it on his birthday.
We're all different, but I for one would go crazy in a sexless or undersexed marriage. My husband and I are both over 50 and usually have sex three times a week. When we're on a vacation and we're both really relaxed and unplugged from work, we usually do it every single day with maybe a skip day in the middle of the vacation. He's the same as I am. He can't imagine not doing it fairly regularly. So glad I met and married him!
| by Anonymous | reply 63 | March 14, 2023 6:22 PM |
[quote] I'm a super introverted loner and even I know this isn't a normal way to conduct a committed relationship with someone. A friend, sure. But a partner? Come on, now. If that's what works for you, fine. But most people do not function this way.
A lot of what we do as humans in this age that's 'normal' or functional isn't optimal or ideal. Could be there's a better way, it's just that the majority are not open to it because of the way they've been socialised.
| by Anonymous | reply 64 | March 14, 2023 6:25 PM |
The guys who mock their wives when they make an effort...so sad.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 65 | March 14, 2023 6:25 PM |
R57 that's true but I'm just saying there's not much to this topic - people don't want to have sex with unattractive people, that sums it all up.
| by Anonymous | reply 66 | March 14, 2023 6:31 PM |
R61 All excuses if you allegedly “love” someone. There are products on the market to help with that. Or, how about you communicate with your partner what gets you hot? Or get yourself into therapy to find out why you aren’t aroused.
| by Anonymous | reply 67 | March 14, 2023 6:35 PM |
I’m assuming the husband in R16’s post is pornsick, hence his cruelty and lack of reciprocity towards his wife.
The wife sounds like such a clueless doormat, poor dear.
| by Anonymous | reply 68 | March 14, 2023 6:44 PM |
[quote]Also, your sister sounds like a selfish cunt. That’s a problem with women today. They’re selfish, corpulent and neurotic. They don’t make the slightest effort for sex or give it a chance and their bodies are failing them with the extra poundage. Even if you’re tired, why not let the partner do it with you anyways? How hard is it to be open to the possibility that you may enjoy it after all? And if it wasn’t great, oh well, at least you were intimate.
Wanna talk about it, r61? This sounds a bit personal.
| by Anonymous | reply 69 | March 14, 2023 7:00 PM |
[quote][R61] As somebody already mentioned, getting fucked is not pleasant if you are not aroused. If the vagina doesn't get wet enough, it is probably painful.
r62 Correct. It is very painful to be penetrated when we're not aroused. It can also be dangerous. The vagina actually elongates/expands during arousal to accommodate the penis which pushes the cervix back and out of the way. Without being aroused, the cervix is lower and it ends up getting hit which feels like sharp, stabbing, cramps with each thrust. The cervix can then get bruised and lacerated. It's very not fun and can certainly lower a woman's incentive to have sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 70 | March 14, 2023 7:04 PM |
Another point often overlooked--female desire is typically responsive, whereas male desire is typically spontaneous. Here is where much of the problems in sexless hetero partnerships arise, and also in lesbian relationships where neither woman initiates.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 71 | March 14, 2023 7:07 PM |
[quote][R61] All excuses if you allegedly “love” someone. There are products on the market to help with that. Or, how about you communicate with your partner what gets you hot? Or get yourself into therapy to find out why you aren’t aroused.
r67 You're not a woman and you don't fuck women so it's really not your place to determine what is and is not an "excuse" when it comes to female sexuality. Stick to what you know; dick and how to get it off. Because when it comes to figuring out how women get off, you haven't a clue. No idea why you're even offering your ill-informed and inexperienced two cents into this conversation.
| by Anonymous | reply 72 | March 14, 2023 7:07 PM |
No wonder men sleep with other men. Them wimmin are IMPOSSIBLE to get off, frigid bishes! 😒
| by Anonymous | reply 73 | March 14, 2023 7:12 PM |
r73 Most of us do just fine getting off solo or with each other. Trust me. Most men just don't know what they're doing and don't care to learn how to improve.
It doesn't stop them from going all "surprised Pikachu face" when their wives and girlfriends suddenly no longer want to fuck them and instead prefer their magic rosebuds and lesbian porn when they're not home.
| by Anonymous | reply 74 | March 14, 2023 7:17 PM |
R74 You're a bunch of ungrateful frigid man-hating beaches. You deserve to be left alone raising your feline colony, while straight dudes need to get off with other men
| by Anonymous | reply 75 | March 14, 2023 7:19 PM |
r75 Spoiler alert, I'm a lesbian. I couldn't care less how men are getting themselves off or with whom. So, knock yourself out, sir.
Their tragically unsatiated wives and girlfriends are more than welcome to come to me with their grievances and concerns, however.
| by Anonymous | reply 76 | March 14, 2023 7:24 PM |
a lot of women do not get off with penis in vagina sex. And lots of men are terrible and selfish lovers.
| by Anonymous | reply 77 | March 14, 2023 9:19 PM |
^ That's true - the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm while a lot of men don't understand or care about that. They think sex is just penis in vagina.
| by Anonymous | reply 78 | March 14, 2023 9:43 PM |
Yes, kids and a mortgage are the death of passion, but the fact is that marriage and financial partnership between two adults is about the only economically viable way for ordinary people to raise kids in today's economy. Most single people can't afford to raise kids on their own, and don't have the energy to be a primary caregiver to children, work to support children, and maintain a sexual relationship that's free of the kids-and-mortgage pressures that lead to bed death.
Honestly, people are so unrealistic about marriage and breeding, they think that they can both have children, and enjoy sex and romance at the same time. When really, for almost everyone, the choice is between kids on one side, or fulfilling passion on the other.
| by Anonymous | reply 79 | March 14, 2023 11:37 PM |
A lot of people don't want to be *alone* - they hate it and to be fair, being married means better outcomes in general - so marriage isn't just about getting sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 80 | March 14, 2023 11:40 PM |
I agree with R59 about everything except kids. Babies and small children are exhausting and better dealt with by 2 (or ideally more) adults who live in the same place as the kid(s). But the idea of a no-kids relationship and not living together sounds like a dream for me personally.
| by Anonymous | reply 81 | March 15, 2023 12:30 AM |
R67 are you in therapy to find out why you don't do a lot skateboard tricks these days? It's difficult to explain this the same way it's difficult to explain very cold weather to someone in hot, tropical weather (or to imagine it yourself in the same circumstances), but when desire dies (which it often does for middle aged and older women, for solid biological/known reasons) the idea of therapy or 'working on' getting it back in order to still have sex makes about as much sense as going to therapy for any other random activity one has no interest in.
You probably don't even hate skateboarders. Maybe you can watch them and say yeah, I see how that would be fun for them. I get it. But you don't want to go out and buy a board. It's the same for sex for some women. I've been shocked by how total the loss of desire is, to the extent that I don't even miss it (I really thought I would, as a woman who previously had a very high sex drive throughout my adult life). I feel like a little kid again, all my interest in non-sex activities has come roaring back. Just wanna build forts in the woods and eat candy and play with my friends all day now. Interest in sex is gone, interest in caretaking other humans is almost entirely gone (except for very small children and animals, and that instinct was there pre-puberty as well). Tbh it's kind of a huge relief.
| by Anonymous | reply 82 | March 15, 2023 12:39 AM |
Senator Chris Murphy took off his “wedding ring” 1 year ago, but they still living together for the kids & campaign.
#sexlessmarriagesinceday1
| by Anonymous | reply 83 | March 15, 2023 1:05 AM |
Men aren’t really interested in vagina past their 20s. It’s only hormones that keep them interested long enough to make babies. They would be happier with other men.
Plus, their wives hit the wall at 27 or 28 and get fat and naggy.
| by Anonymous | reply 84 | March 15, 2023 1:14 AM |
Go back to the Red Pill forums, R84.
| by Anonymous | reply 85 | March 15, 2023 1:16 AM |
R60, the person to whom you're replying admits elsewhere to never having had sex. Which is fine, but offering relationship advice? Ludicrous.
| by Anonymous | reply 86 | March 15, 2023 1:21 AM |
I'm sorry if this has already been discussed, but the first thing that came to my mind is that a lot of straight men are selfish and bad in bed. I'm not talking about young guys learning. And women need more stimulation to climax.
For a lot of women, their experience with sex is little or no foreplay, some quick thrusts and that's it. No stimulation or positive bodily feels whatsoever. Their partners only care about themselves and are seemingly unfamiliar with the clitoris. Think of all those MAGAt men with goatees wearing Oakley wrap arounds, baseball caps atop their bowling ball sized heads. I'm sure the proportion of shitty lovers is pretty high among them.
Some people are dead from the waist down. I'm curious about your sister's experience with masturbation or if she's ever had an orgasm.
| by Anonymous | reply 87 | March 15, 2023 1:23 AM |
I guess we all just assume that our own parents never have sex and that was particularly easy for me as my parents always had separate bedrooms. Anyway, imagine my shock when I find a COCK RING in the glove compartment of my father's car when he was around 60. My mother nonchalantly explained that they'd been having difficulties since his prostate was removed ten years previously and that she'd bought this. Lord knows where. She also said that, at an earlier point in their marriage, they weren't having sex and she asked if he was gay.
| by Anonymous | reply 88 | March 15, 2023 1:28 AM |
[quote] For a lot of women, their experience with sex is little or no foreplay, some quick thrusts and that's it. No stimulation or positive bodily feels whatsoever. Their partners only care about themselves and are seemingly unfamiliar with the clitoris.
Vagina bears a horrifying resemblance to Cthulhu. I’m not sure what women expect.
| by Anonymous | reply 89 | March 15, 2023 1:31 AM |
Sometimes marriage reminds me of the econowives from the Handmaid's Tale. They had to take care of the house, have sex with their husband, have babies and then raise them. Many married women today are like that, except they also have to work on top of everything else. It sounds exhausting. You have to work for money, you can't neglect your kids or your home, so sex is way down on the list of priorities. It's a ridiculous arrangement. Someone upthread said it makes more sense to find someone you want to raise children with and then get sex on the side. That is what many men women are doing and have done for years.
| by Anonymous | reply 90 | March 15, 2023 1:36 AM |
Yeah, it sort of makes sense for two people who like each other and get along to breed, have a living and parenting partnership, and to get their sex on the side.
Except that with an arrangement like that, the person in the partnership who blows off the work of parenting and maintaining the house is going to be the one who gets the most sex! And once you have that problem, well. You're back in a basic unhappy heteronormative marriage.
| by Anonymous | reply 91 | March 15, 2023 1:42 AM |
thinking about that scene in moonstruck where she’s in a passionless relationship with this boring awkward man who barely even likes her and is also very clapped. but for some reason they're planning to marry? so she shows up to break the news to his crazy brother nic cage and he’s dirty and sweaty and tattooed and shouting and a fucking lunatic about it and he wants her sooo bad
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 92 | March 15, 2023 1:42 AM |
[quote] when desire dies (which it often does for middle aged and older women, for solid biological/known reasons)
Aren't menopausal women really crazy horny for a brief window of a few years before the shop shuts its doors so to speak? Like a last massive hormonal spike. Hence the cougar/MILF stereotype.
| by Anonymous | reply 93 | March 15, 2023 1:46 AM |
OP, I wouldn't worry too much about your sister. Her situation does sound odd, plus she sounds lazy and complacent about her situation. She's supposedly waiting for her husband to give her a reason to divorce him. Their current situation is reason enough: irreconcilable differences. She probably just wants the outer appearance of being a married woman with children. Boxes checked, society knows she's a "married woman with children."
OP, don't end up in a sexless relationship. Yes, the sex (frequency) between couples does wane, even when you're young.
| by Anonymous | reply 94 | March 15, 2023 1:56 AM |
R86 stalks other posters, just fyi. It's really fucking weird. Dni is probably the best way to handle that.
| by Anonymous | reply 95 | March 15, 2023 2:00 AM |
R95 gives advice in sex/relationship threads despite, by her own admission, never having had sex or been in a relationship, just fyi. It's really fucking weird. Dni is probably the best way to handle that.
| by Anonymous | reply 96 | March 15, 2023 2:09 AM |
Straight marriages can be sexless for a myriad of reasons.
My parents definitely had a sexless marriage. They slept with the door open. Before we moved to that house, we lived in a one bedroom apartment. My dad slept on a bed in the living room and my mom slept on the other twin bed in the bedroom. Even then as a totally naive kid, I thought it was weird. And yes, I'm an only child.
As I began to view my parents through adult eyes, I attributed this entirely to my mom. She was a very difficult woman (think nutty, mean lady in the neighborhood). She had Schizoid personality disorder. Chief among the diagnostic criteria are dislike of sex and intimacy and no need for friendships or affiliation with people. I felt sorry for my dad.
It's only been recently that I've come to the realization that my dad may have been deeply closeted to the point of celibacy. He married at quite an old age (37) for the time and place (early 60s rural Spain) where people marred in their early 20s. My mom was one of the few single women around his age left over. When Anita Bryant was making the news in the 70s, he would express outright disgust when homosexuality came up on TV. He'd go OTT making guttural noises and spitting sounds.
The thing that clinched it for me was seeing a picture of him and his best friend when they were in their 20s. My dad was sitting and the friend leaning over him from behind. It was a professionally taken portrait. It looked so intimate.
So what happened? They were riding a Vespa type scooter when they hit something on the road. His friend was driving and got pitched forward over the handlebars and was killed. My dad was thrown sideways and had a terrible protruding bone arm break. He had a Frankenstein-like scar on his forearm that never faded. A young man dying is always tragic, but if they were lovers, beyond tragic for my father. I'll never know for certain, but my feeling is that he lost the love of his life.
| by Anonymous | reply 97 | March 15, 2023 2:32 AM |
^Oh, jeez tl;dr ing myself. I didn't realize how long that got. And yes, I'm crying.
| by Anonymous | reply 98 | March 15, 2023 2:35 AM |
R84, not sure where you’re from, but in the U.S. it’s the men who hit the so-called wall long before the women.
Most of the straight men I know are balding, flabby, unkempt, and dull as dirt. And these are younger men, too. Contrast that with my female friends who take excellent care of themselves and have full, rich lives.
The “wall” is a myth perpetuated by weak men who are projecting their insecurities onto women. Sad.
| by Anonymous | reply 99 | March 15, 2023 2:39 AM |
R98, that's a good story. Not a happy one, but interesting -- not too long for me. Thanks.
| by Anonymous | reply 100 | March 15, 2023 2:42 AM |
R98, yeah, that story was long, but it was worth reading, IMO. I usually can't read long DL posts (get a blog!), but yours was interesting. Sad story about your dad. But another way of looking at it is: he did have a taste of having male love and companionship. He didn't live his entire life never getting to experience that.
| by Anonymous | reply 101 | March 15, 2023 2:43 AM |
r86 Which is interesting because, technically, I'm not a fan of sex and prefer "self-care." I'll only do it when with a partner and if she has a higher sex drive than me. It's called compromise. But even I understand that's not the norm nor do I expect everyone to conform to that. That poster comes off as bitter that everyone isn't like them and blames society for being alone when in reality, it's them.
| by Anonymous | reply 102 | March 15, 2023 3:30 AM |
^am liiiiiiiiiterally not even bitter lol. like I don't care at all about celibacy or whatever. Sex and companionship are overrated imo and come with more downsides than up. If that makes me a rare weird bird sobeit, that's how I am about everything. You dr0nes carry on gleeping and glopping to the frequency you're programmed though.
| by Anonymous | reply 103 | March 15, 2023 4:37 AM |
r103 It's really just your shitty, holier-than-thou attitude that's usually a sign of being insecure and having an inferiority complex. As I stated, I'm not a fan of sex either and am technically asexual. But I have the good goddamn sense to realize that isn't the norm and don't go around preaching to people who are obviously sexual about my weird-ass quirks that, frankly, they don't give a fuck about. Try it.
| by Anonymous | reply 104 | March 15, 2023 4:43 AM |
Also, are you in high school or something? What is this foolishness?
[quote]am liiiiiiiiiterally... like I don't care...or whatever...imo...
What kind of arrested development, Tumblr-talk bullshit is this? Do you know where you are?
| by Anonymous | reply 105 | March 15, 2023 4:46 AM |
Yes, r101, and thank you for the reminder.
I often wonder if or how he looked back on the experience and how he felt about it. Or how he felt then about their relationship, whether people speculated or not. Did he feel shame? Did he rearrange the circumstances in his mind later to conform to standard homophobia?
Rural people can be naive, but I recall both parents talking about village/small town sexually abusive priests who went after young boys "in service" to the altar as they were expected from any Catholic family (i.e. everyone) and were molested. The most lurid story was about an enraged father who bludgeoned an abusive priest with a shovel. Someone probably had an inkling.
| by Anonymous | reply 106 | March 15, 2023 6:03 AM |
R106, I hope that your dad didn't feel like both he and his friend were punished (for being gay) via the Vespa accident. Hard to know. There are things I wish I could ask my parents, but both are gone.
| by Anonymous | reply 107 | March 15, 2023 6:07 AM |
I forgot to add that my father seemed to have gotten over his 70s attitudes. Almost twenty-five years later, my gay grad school friend visited during Christmas break, we had dinner, played cards and Mark stayed overnight. Never once did my father, either before or after, make any comment or even a Crack.
My mother was hilarious: "He seems like the type who'd be a fantastic waiter."
| by Anonymous | reply 108 | March 15, 2023 6:13 AM |
r107 -- that's a good question. Rural poor were under heavy religious dogma and even more subject to bizarre Rome crap while middle/upper classes (at least the men) frolicked, fucked, and frequented whore houses special for rich men.
I know he believed much of Catholic dogma was a pile of shit, but when threatened with an eternal damnation of pitching flames, people get irrational and fearful. In his 70s and later, at Christmas, I remember he'd turn on the Pope from Rome on Univision and hum along with the music. He had a lot of justifiable cynical anger towards the church, but it was probably too scary to declare his anger about sexuality.
| by Anonymous | reply 109 | March 15, 2023 6:36 AM |
I am all in favor of husbands having affairs, gay or straight. If their partners don't put out, others will.
| by Anonymous | reply 111 | March 15, 2023 8:17 AM |
Men only get married to gain a live-in maid (and maybe a live-in fuck buddy, if she feels like it), while women only do so to have kids because of the whole biological clock thing. Maybe either or both will fall in love with their kids along the way, but that is far from guaranteed. Both sexes tie the knot for the wrong reasons. Marriage is unnatural and should be abolished or become a fixed-term contract
| by Anonymous | reply 112 | March 15, 2023 11:59 AM |
R111 all well and good...until DH brings home an STI or worse to his wife, that could cause infertility or long term disease or some other damage. That’s where the unfairness and the main sticking point comes in.
If a husband is going to fuck around on his wife in a way that’s not evil, he needs either forswear fucking her ever again, or to be on Prep and use more than one protection for every infidelity.
But we know how straight men feel about that, don’t we. These guys want their cake and then the cake the guy at the next table has too, without anyone washing their hands or using cutlery so to speak.
| by Anonymous | reply 113 | March 15, 2023 1:58 PM |
[quote]Aren't menopausal women really crazy horny for a brief window of a few years before the shop shuts its doors so to speak? Like a last massive hormonal spike. Hence the cougar/MILF stereotype.
I believe that these are premenopausal women, whose hormones are oscillating, so at one stage estrogen drops and testosterone rises. Then there are some women that even have elevated level of fertility before the menopause so some remain pregnant, because they have been relaxed about it thinking they can no longer be impregnated.
I have a female friend who had quite low sexual drive all her life and didn’t care about sex. She is a very feminine woman who probably had low androgens. She became very horny after 45 and started looking at very young guys. She says that older guys seem worn out and unappealing to her, it is only young meat that oozes pheromones that she responds to. So, in a way she became more like a guy. But due to her socialization she lacks the courage to self confidence to act on it.
But I think that post menopause the sexual desire drops again.
| by Anonymous | reply 114 | March 15, 2023 2:49 PM |
R114 shame she didn’t shoot her shot. If she’s hot enough, plenty of younger guys (AOC applicable obviously) would be all over it. The MILF fetish crowd is huge.
| by Anonymous | reply 115 | March 15, 2023 3:39 PM |
R110, I’m a gay man who is observant and honest. Are you a straight man? Why are you so invested in them?
Straight men despise gay men. Your efforts are better spent elsewhere.
-R99
| by Anonymous | reply 116 | March 15, 2023 3:45 PM |
I know a lot of people think their parents' marriages are sexless, but that's not always true. My parents surprised me by continuing to have sex pretty regularly, and my mother was fairly sex negative. Anything to do with sex was taboo and not to be discussed. But my brother and I caught them having sex many times during our teenage years, my brother most of all.
He came home early from school one day and had forgotten to tell my parents he was getting out early. He opened the door and they were doing it on the couch. They screamed, "Get out!" He waited and then my father opened the door and my mother couldn't look my brother in the eye for two days.
I remember talking to my cousins and friends about catching my parents in the act, and they all had stories about doing the same thing with their middle aged parents.
| by Anonymous | reply 117 | March 15, 2023 5:24 PM |
R116, straight and gay men are not natural enemies. Gay men and fish are.
| by Anonymous | reply 118 | March 15, 2023 9:41 PM |
R118, so why has it always been straight men who have oppressed and killed gay men? Are you really that obtuse?
| by Anonymous | reply 120 | March 15, 2023 10:19 PM |
Gay men who simp and whiteknight for straight men remind me of Pickmeishas. Neither truly have any respect from straight men, they just fool themselves into thinking they do. It's real Seladon appeasing the Skeksis type shit.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 121 | March 15, 2023 10:27 PM |
Some of you don’t sound like gay men at all. It sounds like you’d rather lick a fishy stink hole than suck a dick,
| by Anonymous | reply 122 | March 16, 2023 3:12 PM |
This is very common in straight marriages. Some women stop having sex completely after they get the kids they wanted.
| by Anonymous | reply 123 | March 16, 2023 3:17 PM |
[quote]I know a lot of people think their parents' marriages are sexless, but that's not always true. My parents surprised me by continuing to have sex pretty regularly, and my mother was fairly sex negative.
Similarly, I've known men who swear up and down (including to their side pieces) that they have a totally sexless marriage, when what they really mean is "Sex with my wife, which I have regularly, is boring." One such guy, who I'm related to, managed to accidentally knock his wife up several times during the years he maintained their union was sexless.
| by Anonymous | reply 125 | March 16, 2023 5:10 PM |
Women are generally not huge fans of sex and don't even get off on it much of the time. Once they have kids and start getting older they don't want it at all anymore. Kid also kill sex in a marriage. It's not news. I know one lady at work who doesn't even care if her husband fucks around as long as he's not bothering her for sex and brings home his pay check (meaning no spending cash on any side pieces). Most women are too practical to marry for anything other than stability anyway, at least those that are in lasting marriages.
| by Anonymous | reply 126 | March 16, 2023 5:34 PM |
R111 Very often it’s the husbands who don’t put out, despite the wives keeping fit.
| by Anonymous | reply 127 | March 16, 2023 5:36 PM |
"Aren't menopausal women really crazy horny for a brief window of a few years before the shop shuts its doors so to speak?"
I don't think any non-woman can tell the difference between an older woman who's out hunting dick because she's horny, and one who's out hunting dick because she wants to feel beautiful and desired, and fears an age-related loss of sexual power in an ageist and sexist society. They look the same on the outside, and it's not like the straight men they're after care about the distinction.
| by Anonymous | reply 128 | March 17, 2023 12:43 AM |
These stupid women deserve to be cheated on.
| by Anonymous | reply 129 | March 17, 2023 6:30 AM |
There are so many old married couple fighting 24/7 (one has to wonder how they even brought themselves to fuck in the first place) that won't get a divorce because "it's too expensive". I wanna find out who invented this preposterous idea of marriage and blow them up
| by Anonymous | reply 130 | March 26, 2023 11:21 PM |
Seriously r4, you couldn’t figure out that your man is clearly gonna have to be the bottom and you the top? His dick doesn’t work, well goodness, what ever could two gay men do in that situation? Oh, switch roles.
You two sound loony.
| by Anonymous | reply 131 | March 26, 2023 11:27 PM |
R10 those pork stay together because they really don’t have it all that bad compared to a life apart. There are loads of sacrifices that they aren’t willing to make. They also may know that the dating pool isn’t deep or wide after your 20s. Add kids and an ex-husband/wife to the mix and there is a bunch of baggage.
Truly unhappy people bounce.
| by Anonymous | reply 132 | March 26, 2023 11:30 PM |
R35, I believe you were referring to me upthread. I'm R4. But I'm not a guy, I'm female. That's why there haven't been any hand jobs or BJs.
| by Anonymous | reply 133 | March 27, 2023 3:42 AM |
It's R4 again. The same goes for you, too, R131. I only wish I could be a top!
| by Anonymous | reply 134 | March 27, 2023 3:48 AM |
I don’t know what the hell I fall into. But jeez I’ve been dating men for 10 years before that yeah I did date women a little. In those experiences, I always wanted to satisfy my partner with oral, vaginal and occasionally anal sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 135 | March 27, 2023 3:50 AM |
r4, there are plenty of things your husband could do to please you. I'm sorry he's not creative in bed. He could fuck you with a strap on for god's sake. Or finger you. Or eat you out. Or suck on your tits. Or use a vibrator on you.
Jesus Christ, straight people are pathetically uncreative.
| by Anonymous | reply 136 | March 27, 2023 4:06 AM |
I'm pleased to learn the hets are suffering.
| by Anonymous | reply 137 | March 27, 2023 4:22 AM |
90% of straight men are selfish lovers. They only care about their nut. Thats why when women run across one that can really throw it down,they go stupid. A story played out here in Fl years ago where a PTA mom,adored by everyone and highly respectable ,met this ex convict and went slap crazy. Dumped her husband and kids,ran off with this loser and ended up dying with him in a suicide pact in a motel room as the cops were closing in. The ex con was rather brutishly handsome,and obviously had a dick game that rang her bells. Fun ending...when the cops busted the door down they were both naked and had apparently just fucked before killing themselves. Now thats dickmatized !
| by Anonymous | reply 138 | March 27, 2023 4:25 AM |
R138 Back to the kitchen, frigid frau
| by Anonymous | reply 139 | March 27, 2023 4:42 AM |
Age has alot to do with it. Even men lose their desire about the age of 70 and beyond. Just wait, you'll see.
| by Anonymous | reply 140 | March 27, 2023 4:54 AM |
Someone mentioned birds mating for life. I read a story a few years about a turtle pair (apparently turtles mate for life) the female got fed up with the male and left the relationship after 100 years of being together.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 141 | March 27, 2023 5:29 AM |
r141 She was actually done with him about 10 years in. It just took 10x longer for her to snap and finally end it because she likes to take her time.
| by Anonymous | reply 142 | March 27, 2023 5:40 AM |
I've been with my partner over 40 years. In the beginning we were wildly in love and physical. Somehow we met, clicked, and he's been by my side ever since. Sometimes I look at him and wonder what the fuck he's still doing here and why he won't go away. As we aged the sex dwindled, at first because his health declined and the medications affected his libido. Now we're both old and decrepit and sex is history and honestly, I'm fine with it. I had many decades of crazy obsessive fun and now am grateful to focus on the wany wonders of still being alive.
Relationships change over time. Sometimes you wonder why you didn't boot the guy out long ago but we have so much in common and there is still a lot of intimacy between us, we're true partners.
I think with straight people there is a strong physical desire to birth and raise children. The happiest straight couples I know are child-free. If you don't have kids and financial entanglements it's easier to walk away. Still, it hasn't stopped people with kids from divorcing. I think it's just hard to put up with another person for decades. I don't care what other people do, though. I don't judge. We all have to figure out how to be happy and content with our lives and not having a spouse or partner or sex is just fine for many people.
| by Anonymous | reply 143 | March 27, 2023 6:03 AM |
The last time I had sex I was about 55 after my last relationship ended. At that point, I decided I never wanted to have sex with a man again. Having a penis inside you after 50 is uncomfortable and frankly if the guy is medium to large it hurts. I was a female with a huge libido. I continued to masturbate until last year and I just turned 73. Maybe women do not lose their libido maybe they just don't want sex with a penis.
| by Anonymous | reply 144 | March 27, 2023 6:16 AM |
During a particularly sluttish phase I used to be a cumdump for married men. Many told me my hole was better for fucking than their wives'. They all said their wives had become too loose after childbirth.
| by Anonymous | reply 145 | March 27, 2023 10:11 AM |
All of them, dear? Every last one of them happened to have the same problem with their wives? Did you also try playing the lottery numbers during this particularly special phase of your life, r145? Because you should have.
| by Anonymous | reply 146 | March 27, 2023 8:45 PM |
Why are people here so obsessed with straight men?
| by Anonymous | reply 147 | March 27, 2023 8:52 PM |
My husband and I are old and monogamous. After thirty-five years, it’s not the sex keeping us together but we make a point of doing it once a week anyway. I think it’s good for us.
| by Anonymous | reply 148 | March 27, 2023 9:00 PM |
I recently found out that two of my sisters have separate bedrooms from their husbands.
They claim it's because of snoring but I don't believe that. I think it's because they settled and can no longer stand them, but stay together because of the kids.
| by Anonymous | reply 149 | March 27, 2023 9:38 PM |
r147 Straight men are perfect and the most desired. Everyone wants them. Even lesbians can't resist their charm. We're all helpless to their thrall. The internet manosphere has also made straight men so much more charming and enticing. Women don't know what they're missing.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 150 | March 27, 2023 9:44 PM |
R146 yes. And your point?
| by Anonymous | reply 151 | March 28, 2023 12:12 AM |
I love straight dudes, I wish I could fuck 'em all 😍😍😍
| by Anonymous | reply 152 | March 28, 2023 12:25 AM |
Sex in marriage is like Canada , we all know where to find it but we never go there.
| by Anonymous | reply 153 | March 28, 2023 1:02 AM |
You never know. My parents were madly in love until the day Dad died, but slept in separate bedrooms for a couple of decades due to his snoring. (To be fair, Mom's a light sleeper and Dad's snoring was loud enough to disrupt even my rock-like sleep from across the hall.)
| by Anonymous | reply 154 | March 28, 2023 2:28 AM |
[quote] Many told me my hole was better for fucking than their wives'.
Now, that's romantic.
| by Anonymous | reply 155 | March 28, 2023 2:35 AM |
Lesbian catnip post, apparently
| by Anonymous | reply 156 | March 28, 2023 2:39 AM |
I clicked on and subscribed to that dead bedrooms subreddit. I couldn't take it anymore amd finally responded to some stupid poster. Now I've been permanently banned from that subreddit.
| by Anonymous | reply 158 | March 29, 2023 4:32 AM |
R158 That's why I don't like reddit much (except for pictures of cats). It's a hivemind there and you have to be milquetoast in your views. They are so boring.
| by Anonymous | reply 159 | March 29, 2023 4:39 AM |
