Sex has gotten boring
Ava Lawson 
Any one else feel this way? I’m 46 and met a 26 year old last night. He was great looking, super fit, sensual and a dynamic sex partner - everything I could have wanted, but after about an hour, I started to get bored. We continued for a few more hours and happy to have the experience but, maybe because I’m getting older, I kinda of would have been just as fulfilled having a wank by myself. Sex was never a huge priority but just seems tedious now. Anyone in the same boat or should I just end it now and off myself?
| by Anonymous | reply 68 | October 10, 2021 9:40 PM |
Sex is overrated, disgusting, primal, and unnecessary. There are more fulfilling pleasures in life that do not require you to act in such a déclassé manner.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 8, 2021 1:49 PM |
Same boat. What people do to one another before/during fucking is finite. After a while, you know where it's going LONG before it gets there. Having a wank is about as satisfying, without the need for "directing" (Uh, could you slow it down a bit. Uh, a bit more pressure, etc.) I'm to the point where frankly, my dear, I'd rather read a book.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 8, 2021 1:54 PM |
At 57, sex is still fun, but only for 45 minutes or an hour. I don't want some three hour aerobics session anymore.
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 8, 2021 1:54 PM |
At 46 you should be having less frequent yet more passionate sex in a meaningful relationship, OP, not hooking up with strangers. Congratulations, you’re on the path of becoming another lonely eldergay dead for days in his apartment before someone discovers the corpse.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 8, 2021 1:56 PM |
Yes, agree, sex is boring at a certain point in life. Once you start having arthritis and joint issues it’s really not as fun anymore. On the plus side, this gives you more time to focus on other interests and enjoy the beauty of nature.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 8, 2021 2:03 PM |
R4 - haha true enough. Just ended a long term relationship. We ended things because he has very high functioning autism (CFO at a Fortune 500 company) but couldn’t provide the emotional connection I want. We’re still good friends. Hooking up with the 25 year old was an unplanned event - it just happened - I’m on a business trip and met at the hotel bar. Point taken though
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 8, 2021 2:14 PM |
After “an hour” plus “a few more hours,” most things get boring
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 8, 2021 2:21 PM |
I'd be interested to hear the 26 year old's assessment of it all.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 8, 2021 2:22 PM |
R4, nobody cares about lying undiscovered for days after one's death - y'know, because you'll be dead already. Honestly. There's no shame in it - except for the society that ALLOWED it to happen!!
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 8, 2021 2:25 PM |
I’ve never liked the gymnastics class aspect of it, the emotional connection is much more meaningful to me. I think the Brits have a good attitude toward it, they seem to be more open about how awkward it can be.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 8, 2021 2:30 PM |
Are there any sex stories on Datalounge that don't involve a partner who's perfect in every conceivable way?
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 8, 2021 2:32 PM |
[Quote]but after about an hour, I started to get bored.
Well duh. Who needs sex to last that long? Fuck that noise.
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 8, 2021 2:51 PM |
Haha, "love" is blind, R12.
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 8, 2021 2:51 PM |
OP didn't sound very in love with this perfect specimen.
That gurl OP needs to find someone he actually likes.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 8, 2021 2:56 PM |
Yeah, if you’re doing it for hours I think you’re probably doing it wrong.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 8, 2021 2:57 PM |
^^^
Or DID something wrong. Like inject Trimix in yo dick!
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 8, 2021 3:29 PM |
I just want my first time to be totally worth it. I want to make love, not ‘fuck’. I’m not into the cruising part of gayity at all — I’m a selfish monogamous bitch!
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 8, 2021 3:29 PM |
Your MISTAKE op was to continue for a few hours. If you wanted to spend more time together, there are plenty fo things to do besides sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 8, 2021 3:51 PM |
I’m 34 and I’ve felt this way since I started having sex at 14 or so. I just get more pleasure outta jerking. I don’t have to clean my place or wonder if this will be worth it or tell myself how to make me cum or deal with another person. I should also add that ive been a porn fiend since I was 9 or 10.
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 8, 2021 3:53 PM |
I've only really had fun during sex when it was with someone I cared about.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 8, 2021 3:53 PM |
I hooked up last weekend with a smelly, crippled, micro-dicked Ethiopian, a kiosk worker, late 50s, bad French and no English.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 8, 2021 3:53 PM |
I hate to sound like a Frau but sex is better when there is love involved. I'm going on 25 years with my partner and the sex is better than ever. He knows how to play my body like Rachmaninoff could play the piano.
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 8, 2021 4:20 PM |
I can't believe I used to indulge in marathon sports sex for entire weekends at a time.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 8, 2021 5:00 PM |
"...I started having sex at 14 or so. I just get more pleasure outta jerking. I should also add that ive been a porn fiend since I was 9 or 10."
This sounds like me.
Got my first blowjob at 14 and saw my first Playgirl magazine at 10.
I knew what I wanted...
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 8, 2021 5:08 PM |
R23 I suppose, I’ve been in a few relationships where emotions were involved, but it was never love. That’s hard to find and you are fortunate. Maybe that’s the key or maybe some people just don’t get a thrill from sex. As far I can remember, much like R20, I’d rather watch some porn. I don’t physically understand the need for whores to go a whoring.
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 8, 2021 5:24 PM |
Love yourself more and masturbate even more often, OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | October 8, 2021 5:44 PM |
Op left out the meth part of the story.
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | October 8, 2021 5:49 PM |
[quote] I'm going on ... years with my partner and the sex is better than ever
Same here, R23, and I am pushing 80
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | October 8, 2021 5:53 PM |
I think it's just part of aging. Been there done that, don't need to prove anything. Even an hour seems tedious.
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | October 8, 2021 5:56 PM |
When I was 19 or 20, I had a boyfriend with a pretty hot body - we fucked like bunnies, we'd even have "sleep" sex in the middle of the night. Of course, he cheated on me. After that, I've never really had an adult partner who came close to satisfying me sexually - too many head cases.
For me, the best sex has always been as a planned, recreational activity with someone who isn't a total stranger (I am discerning) in a hotel room. That's how I like my sexual encounters. I'm open to other possibilities but they seem unlikely. As long as a guy is caring, it's enjoyable. I don't think I've ever really had sex with anyone who loved me - but that's a different story. (I don't think I've ever been with a long-term partner who was capable of love.)
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | October 8, 2021 6:33 PM |
I've always been the best I've ever had. And when I'm done, I can just go to sleep.
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | October 8, 2021 7:49 PM |
Sex is totally boring. I'm 50 and with my partner for 13 years. I absolutely adore him but we only have full on hot monkey sex a few times a year. Beyond that, its every few weeks and feels very rote - yet I really don't care. We are both usually so fucking exhausted from working 60 hours a week that we just eat and then crash out.
I was a ballistic whore in my 20s and 30s so I feel like I had my time in the sun, as it were.
| by Anonymous | reply 33 | October 8, 2021 7:56 PM |
Retired Whore of Babylon here. Now I'd rather watch the hummingbirds drink nectar in the Hanging Gardens.
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | October 8, 2021 7:59 PM |
Yeah, I feel I've used up my quota of sex. It was fun rutting and slutting but it couldn't last forever. P
| by Anonymous | reply 35 | October 8, 2021 9:53 PM |
[quote] I've never really had an adult partner who came close to satisfying me sexually
We're wondering what you meant by that.
| by Anonymous | reply 36 | October 8, 2021 10:33 PM |
I hear ya OP. I'm 41 and have no desire to fuck. None. It's not even like I miss it. Or that I'm fat and gross (I'm neither) and can't get it. I can. I just couldn't care less about any of it. I know I might regret this at some point. But whatever.
I jack off simply to clean the pipe a few times a week. That's it.
| by Anonymous | reply 38 | October 9, 2021 4:20 AM |
Have you thought about raping a young person with a crucifix? That might spice things up.
| by Anonymous | reply 39 | October 9, 2021 4:46 AM |
Despite what we are bombarded with in every media outlet - especially gay, sex is not the most important thing in life. After the slowly dawning revelation in my late 40s that the assumed prioritization of sex was a pointless road to nowhere, I began to appreciate how much more there was to life. In my 50s, I consider the amount of time and effort chasing sex in my 20s and 30s as a waste of time for a 30 second orgasm.
I don’t suggest we go back to Victorian morality, but there really needs to be some counter-messaging to the constant inundation young people get that sex alone is a worthwhile goal to pursue. Fine for an adolescent but to live a full life that explores the abundance of wonders of our time on earth, there are so many other activies we should be prioritizing.
| by Anonymous | reply 40 | October 9, 2021 12:27 PM |
When vanilla sex gets boring, fisting will start to liven it up again
| by Anonymous | reply 42 | October 9, 2021 12:37 PM |
Can I suggest it isn't sex that is boring OP as much as casual one-time sex?
There's the thrill of the chase originally though the apps sort of killed that, and then what he looks like without clothes on and with an erection.
But at a certain point you are left wanting more.
| by Anonymous | reply 43 | October 9, 2021 12:44 PM |
How do you have sex for over an hour???
| by Anonymous | reply 44 | October 9, 2021 12:45 PM |
For me, sex can get boring, if it's meaningless.
If it's an expression of love and a friendship, however, it can be deeply fulfilling. I have a close friend with whom I have had sex semi-regularly for the past 18 years; we've never been in a 'official partnership', but we love each other and are open about our feelings with each other. Our sex has been getting better and better over the years. With long-term partners, it can be difficult to stay in touch sexually, unfortunately; sometimes people are simply not compatible in the long term. With him, sex is like escaping into another world for a few hours.
| by Anonymous | reply 45 | October 9, 2021 12:50 PM |
I was riding some dick and then the boredom hit me out of nowhere, like I fully stopped for a second and audibly sighed, thinking about how I'd rather be anywhere else and what a chore it was.
This happened to me a couple of times, both dudes were hot, I was into them, but I don't know what happened, maybe they were lousy lovers?
| by Anonymous | reply 46 | October 9, 2021 12:51 PM |
R45 that sounds like the perfect situation!
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 47 | October 9, 2021 1:47 PM |
OP is a liar, of course.
And people who use the word "wank" are British, stupid or, most likely, both.
| by Anonymous | reply 48 | October 9, 2021 2:01 PM |
[quote] I'd be interested to hear the 26 year old's assessment of it all.
Disappointed, I imagine.
| by Anonymous | reply 49 | October 9, 2021 2:12 PM |
I'm an attentive sex partner, but the last few years I haven't met many guys that have much imagination when it comes to being spontaneous or assertive during sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 50 | October 9, 2021 2:13 PM |
Sex is never boring, but it's you who got old and bored, OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 51 | October 9, 2021 2:18 PM |
[quote] Sex is never boring,
Lucky you.
| by Anonymous | reply 52 | October 9, 2021 2:20 PM |
^ How did this become a stealth pedo thread?
| by Anonymous | reply 53 | October 9, 2021 2:27 PM |
I agree with r40. It has always amazed me that people will give up everything valuable in their lives for a 30 second orgasm. Look how many men have been destroyed because they can’t control their sexual urges. Careers, families, friendships, and reputations ruined for a fleeting sensation.
| by Anonymous | reply 54 | October 9, 2021 2:44 PM |
OP, have you tried pussy?
| by Anonymous | reply 55 | October 9, 2021 2:49 PM |
[quote]How do you have sex for over an hour???
ParTy
| by Anonymous | reply 56 | October 9, 2021 2:56 PM |
Indeed, R54. I used to discuss this with my friends Jeffrey, Andrew and Kevin. We simply couldn't understand it.
| by Anonymous | reply 57 | October 9, 2021 3:32 PM |
I've forgotten what sex feels Like so I'm not sure if tis that or I've lost interest.
| by Anonymous | reply 58 | October 9, 2021 4:52 PM |
It pisses me off sometimes, r57. I understand that public figures need to live their lives too, but when they fuck up it sometimes effects everyone. Anthony Weiner for example. He could’ve been president someday but noooooooo. Thinking with his dick.
| by Anonymous | reply 59 | October 9, 2021 5:05 PM |
after about an hour.....i'm ready to slip off his briefs and start the serious foreplay.
you need to check your T levels, OP
| by Anonymous | reply 60 | October 9, 2021 5:15 PM |
Your testosterone has plummetted due to age. Your estrogen has more sway now. You are looking for connection instead of a fuck now but you haven't figured it out yet. Try someone your own age and develop an actual intimate relationship.
| by Anonymous | reply 61 | October 9, 2021 5:27 PM |
"I was riding some dick ... "
This blasé line made me bust out laughing!
| by Anonymous | reply 62 | October 9, 2021 5:41 PM |
R62 Oh Mildred, you're simply devilish!
| by Anonymous | reply 63 | October 10, 2021 7:53 AM |
I totally understand the boredom, which is why we keep looking for the next hot sex partner. Over and over, never satisfied.
And then one day you’re over it.
| by Anonymous | reply 64 | October 10, 2021 6:45 PM |
My hottest memories are not of the poking of the hole but of being under the sheets with a guy, hairy legs rubbing against each other. Armpits are a weakness, too. Then the poking changes everything, and it's a lot of work.
| by Anonymous | reply 66 | October 10, 2021 7:56 PM |
I’ve gotten to where I’m pretty much only interested in anal. I don’t want my dick sucked. I’ll suck dick for a bit and I love to eat ass, but fucking is the main event and I want to get to it PDQ.
| by Anonymous | reply 67 | October 10, 2021 9:05 PM |
R46, chemistry is a funny thing. I have this occasional "buddy" who is well into middle age and is short in height and in dick. But our chemistry is off the charts. I would not fret -- if there sparks aren't flying with someone, just move on to the next person.
| by Anonymous | reply 68 | October 10, 2021 9:40 PM |
