I am 41, but pretty much all my life, my cock does not seem to like random hookups. On the first few dates it will get hard then soft then hard and so forth. It's pretty much always been this way since I was in my 20's. Once I am in a relationship, I am always hard. I have raging morning wood and am rock hard when jerking off. This hasn't been a problem except I want to enjoy dating and sex while dating. Finding a partner isn't so easy, but random sex is. It's psychological. Yes, I watch porn but I horny and I need to cum twice a day. If I were to no fap for a week, my anxiety would be out the door. I also have a nice big dick so it's disappointing for all when it doesn't work. I don't want to rely on ED drugs b/c once I am comfortable, I'm hard. Viagra also makes my cock less sensitive. Help!

by Anonymous

reply 16

September 7, 2022 8:01 PM

Looks like your dick has higher standards than you do, OP. Like the heart, the dick wants what it wants.

by Anonymous

reply 1

September 7, 2022 6:37 AM

Who cares you’re a bottom whore.

by Anonymous

reply 2

September 7, 2022 6:43 AM

Buddy, there's nothing wrong with you. You just don't like random hook ups. Listen to your dick. Have the sex that turns you on.

by Anonymous

reply 4

September 7, 2022 6:52 AM

Yes it is fine as long as you're safe and consenting with other adults (and not home wrecking).

Some day you will die. Don't let other people shame you out of a good time.

by Anonymous

reply 5

September 7, 2022 7:00 AM

hmm.. Im the exact opposite. Im totally hard at just the thought of a random hookup or messing around with a new person. Once Im in a relationship of any kind with the same person, it takes a lot to get me going. I guess I like the idea of something new.

by Anonymous

reply 6

September 7, 2022 7:08 AM

No one to talk to in real life, OP? Your psychiatrist still on vacation?

by Anonymous

reply 7

September 7, 2022 7:13 AM

OP, sounds like trust issues. What's your worst fear with random hookups? Understanding that may help you conquer it. Or, like others have said, maybe your cock is worth listening to.

by Anonymous

reply 9

September 7, 2022 7:20 AM

Stop the chronic porn use and masturbation, then get back to us. There's not really any point in identifying the problem, as you have, and then listing reasons why you can't solve it and expecting some other solution.

by Anonymous

reply 10

September 7, 2022 2:48 PM

This is kind of sweet, in a trashy and sad and pathetic way.

Get you a poly arrangement, OP, you adorable little oversexed freak.

by Anonymous

reply 11

September 7, 2022 2:56 PM

OP, please contact me posthaste! I am in great need of dick I don’t have to keep working for once I’ve snagged it!

by Anonymous

reply 12

September 7, 2022 6:16 PM

Thanks for sharing, OP Gurl!

by Anonymous

reply 13

September 7, 2022 6:59 PM

Another one who only gets hard with random hookups - but not partnered intimacy. I’ve tried to fight it but seems ingrained.

by Anonymous

reply 14

September 7, 2022 7:52 PM

Hard when j/o but soft when hooking up = no self confidence

by Anonymous

reply 15

September 7, 2022 7:55 PM

Can I just say, OP, that I really appreciate you sharing this?

I'm the same way. When I start feeling safe with a person, comfortable with them, enjoying their smell, cuddling, seeing mutual respect play out...a fondness creeps in that leads to boner city. But that takes time and openness.

As much as I'd like to just get off quickly with someone hot, have hookups here and there, if there's nothing other than a pretty visual to work with, its a struggle. And yes, its embarrassing. I come on here and read all about guys hooking up and loving it...and I've wished I was more like that.

I guess I'm not.

With porn it's easy, because you know it's just an image, but in person having someone try to engage me in 2.5 seconds feels strange. Empty.

But you're right - you scare off some guys if you aren5t at peak sexual performance level the minute you meet. Its hard to find hot guys who are also sensitive souls and prefer to warm up to you slowly.

by Anonymous

reply 16

September 7, 2022 8:01 PM