When you really get to know most people beyond the surface you find out that their marriages and relationships involved cheating at some point. I can’t think of a perfect couple where cheating didn’t happen. The men (or top) usually get caught, and the women (or bottom) do it too but on the sly and still flip out when they find out the macho one does it.

by Anonymous

reply 17

March 31, 2023 11:53 PM

Most straight people have open relationships just only one of them knows it.

by Anonymous

reply 1

March 31, 2023 10:45 PM

The macho one? The top? Oh dear…

by Anonymous

reply 2

March 31, 2023 10:50 PM

nah, millions of personals showcase bottoms are far more slutty.,

But most people cheat... and not necessarily in the physical sense.

Every couple will inevitably fall into a rut and seek some form of affection from someone else, at some point.

That's why so many people believe str8s can't be friends with the opposite sex, bisexuals are depraved, nor that anyone can maintain friendships with their exes.

by Anonymous

reply 4

March 31, 2023 11:00 PM

I think many people successfully force themselves to be monogamous, in spite of their desire.

by Anonymous

reply 5

March 31, 2023 11:03 PM

Even the Bible talks about two (or 200) girls for every boy.

Concubines.

And then there's the boys and the eunuchs.

by Anonymous

reply 6

March 31, 2023 11:08 PM

For some, yes. I suspect at least 50% of men (regardless of orientation) cheat on their partners at times. There's a reason the World's Oldest Profession IS the world's oldest profession.

Straights have more societal pressure to live up to the ideal of my monogamy, but in many cases it's just optics. R1 nails it.

by Anonymous

reply 8

March 31, 2023 11:18 PM

This article is rather enlightening.

Offsite Link

by Anonymous

reply 9

March 31, 2023 11:36 PM

They do exist. As another poster noted, many are monogamous relationships only in one partner's mind/optimism. They are realistic for some, not for others, neither of which necessarily reflects on the quality of the relationship.

by Anonymous

reply 10

March 31, 2023 11:38 PM

My husband and I have only had sex together since we’ve been together, we just occasionally do it with a third or a fourth person included too. Not “monogamy” in the traditional sense, but also not open. Works great for us.

by Anonymous

reply 13

March 31, 2023 11:45 PM

I would guess that less than 50% of relationships - where monogamy is the stated goal - are in fact monogamous.

The key is to identify a person who will be satisfied with one partner. It won't be the "bad boy." That bad boy won't change for you or anybody else.

by Anonymous

reply 14

March 31, 2023 11:47 PM

[quote] Every couple will inevitably fall into a rut and seek some form of affection from someone else, at some point.

I don't think a "rut" even needs to occur. Some people (usually a man) will always be on the hunt - even if he has someone at home who is willing to try new things, sexually.

by Anonymous

reply 15

March 31, 2023 11:48 PM

JFC we have this thread at least once a month.

YES. Some people can and want to be monogamous. And they can have great sex.

If you can't do it, knock yourself out, hun. Tear your mussy up. But stop insisting that something that exists is impossible.

by Anonymous

reply 16

March 31, 2023 11:50 PM

Surprised there's so many yes votes...or maybe I shouldn't be...

by Anonymous

reply 17

March 31, 2023 11:53 PM