Are you gen?
James Williams 
So sick of this on Grindr!
Next guy who asks I’m replying “send me a rate sheet and a pic of your taint!”
| by Anonymous | reply 74 | August 20, 2018 2:21 PM |
Then stop using Shawn Mendes' pics, OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | August 15, 2018 4:22 AM |
Generous...meaning, willing to pay?
| by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 15, 2018 4:27 AM |
Jeez. You all act like Grindr is for Cinderella to meet Prince Charming. If you are over 50 and the guy you are chatting with is in his 20s there may be an expectation that you should be generous. That can be with a dinner and some other activity or cold cash. If a guy tells you he is a student or unemployed, you can assume they are happy to get some cash out of the deal. If the sex is mutually good, even better, see him again, you old generous fool. Aunt Prissy is not here to judge.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 15, 2018 4:36 AM |
I used to get stalked on Grindr by the one male prostitute who kept making new profiles and wouldn't take no for an answer. I'm not sure how real his pics were. It could have been someone I rejected getting really jealous of me getting sex for free.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 15, 2018 4:36 AM |
booking prostitutes is a slippery slope. I know an English banker who started in on that in his 30's! He never learned how to have a non.-mercenary relationships and ended up in quasi-relations with hustlers, but said he didn't really like it. He got rich in his 20's and lacking self esteem, just started paying on the explanation "its the fastest and surest way to get the kind of man I like who I can't get otherwise."
OP just decide if you want to start paying rent boys, or not. Many of that young generation are very casual about their sex work - not doing it very much at all.
Also I know some North Africans in Europe who do it out of a sense of identity - if they are getting paid, it covers for the fact they love the sex and love men.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 15, 2018 4:42 AM |
If you are on Grindr and are suddenly getting bombarded with odd requests from people who block you, have a look to see if they are all the same distance away and if it happens at the same time of day. It could be that all these crazy people are just one crazy person who's stalking you.
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 15, 2018 4:44 AM |
Celery is crisp!
Those in the know will understand, The rest of you, ignore.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 15, 2018 5:00 AM |
Every few weeks someone who's at least 25 miles away starts to chat with me. Are they bots? Prostitutes?
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | August 15, 2018 5:03 AM |
I've had an online (chat) relationship with someone named Ashley for the last 6 months, just discovered the IP address is in China
| by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 15, 2018 5:06 AM |
Want to your life better? Delete Facebook and Grindr. It's really that simple.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 15, 2018 5:11 AM |
Yeah, this trend is disturbing. Pretty Woman is just a film. Sugar daddies don’t advertise themselves as such and would consider it demeaning to start a shirt or long term relationship by paying cash. You see the same guys looking for generous and sugar daddies on all the time...clocks ticking. Time for a plan B, boys
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 15, 2018 6:08 AM |
which introduces the concept of the "shirt-term relationship," which lasts until you decide to change your shirt, so about 24 hours (in Spain)
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 15, 2018 6:12 AM |
Hey OP, just beware of the boys that call you Daddy or Pa or Papi. They are buttering you up for something. No different than the salesperson at a department store who works on commission telling you that you look amazing in that high end suit.
Before the apps, these young guys could not just walk up to you and start to flirt and say these things to you, it had to be done in person which happened less to people.
Some of the guys are hard core hustlers, others just a young guy who enjoy (to some extent) sex with an older guy that comes with a little cash gift. These guys are not looking for relationships...definitely not...
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | August 15, 2018 12:35 PM |
Im pushing 50 and not gorgeous, and nobody ever hits me up for cash on Grindr. Maybe it’s because of where I am? (New York City)
I’ve tried finding guys myself on grindr who will accept money, and its a very very difficult thing to do. Nobody is interested.
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 15, 2018 1:07 PM |
Why are you people on a site with sky high STDrates?
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | August 15, 2018 1:12 PM |
R15 you need a disposable profile with "gen" or something in the title. Basically let the browsing public know you're available for that and the guys will seek you out. Be careful with it though as you can get banned if you're too overt, which is why I suggest a disposable profile.
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 15, 2018 2:05 PM |
I don’t go for young guys so it’s never a problem but I do get hits from them on my profiles. I usually block them.
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | August 15, 2018 2:36 PM |
When I have a message exchange with a guy and he asks if I am "gen," I tell him that I won't even pay for cable, so I am not going to pay him. Those guys are paid members of Grindr, so they have unlimited blocks. When this happens, they block me tout suite.
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | August 15, 2018 3:01 PM |
How does one become a paid member of Grindr, r19?
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | August 15, 2018 3:11 PM |
R15 - same here. With the death of Craigslist, I turned to Grindr for some Gen action. Nothing. Where did they all go and how are these poor guys supporting themselves.
| by Anonymous | reply 21 | August 15, 2018 4:55 PM |
If you find out, let us know r21!
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | August 15, 2018 11:07 PM |
I love being gen...make me feel in control, and I kinda get off on that
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | August 16, 2018 12:03 AM |
When they ask, how big is your cock? I have taken to responding, "what is the circumference/ radius of your hole?" It's about the same siliness as asking, "do you shoot big loads? WTF
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | August 16, 2018 12:07 AM |
R6 - that’s me. Except NYC instead of London. Just like straight guys have done for centuries. We deserve equality - I’ve never felt guilty. I’m workaholic who deals with enough drama at work - I don’t need it at home.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | August 16, 2018 12:09 AM |
Oops, I mean r24. I'm sure r25 has a fine penis.
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | August 16, 2018 12:27 AM |
R23 - Yea, whatever gets you through your day - I just find you pathetic. How unfuckable do you have to be to pay someone to touch you?
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | August 16, 2018 4:23 AM |
[R28) You would be surprised how fuckable someone is who is also gen. Your notion that someone who is gen is unfuckable is a sad reflection on you.
| by Anonymous | reply 29 | August 16, 2018 8:37 PM |
Grindr is so dumb .... or .... just put up a good photo. Those that respond must send a photo and all is done within minutes. It's just sex. Questions, questions, questions, no, take none. No "Gen" shit. Sex, Want it? Get over here.
| by Anonymous | reply 30 | August 16, 2018 9:42 PM |
R29 - Yea, that makes so much sense.
| by Anonymous | reply 31 | August 17, 2018 12:51 AM |
R31 Most johns are actually not hideous just very married and want the best with total discretion and without any shit or games....100/150/200 bucks to them is nothing.
| by Anonymous | reply 32 | August 17, 2018 1:55 AM |
johns come in all shapes and sizes. I once met a john at a hotel who was a rich European 25 year old with an amazing body and cock, paid 200. Jealous bitches.
| by Anonymous | reply 33 | August 17, 2018 2:49 AM |
M O S T johns actually are hideous. All the johns at this site have to do is remove their clothes, look in a full length mirror, and ask themselves, 'who would you ever touch that'?
| by Anonymous | reply 34 | August 17, 2018 2:59 AM |
R34 maybe the ones that approach you....
| by Anonymous | reply 35 | August 17, 2018 3:02 AM |
I started having people on Grindr lie about their age. Not the usual lying but in their profile they either won't have an age or say 21 (I'm 31) but then say "I'm really 15 or 16." One actually said "I'm 13." I told them to immediately delete their profile, and told them how dangerous it was to be underage on an adult dating site. Not sure if they were cops, or real. But I reported them as underage. Scary shit.
| by Anonymous | reply 36 | August 17, 2018 3:10 AM |
R34 you seem to be quite bitter try to control your anger dear
| by Anonymous | reply 37 | August 17, 2018 3:14 AM |
That Gen thing totally sounds like Asian Bots. Only Asian ladies used to ask if your were "generous American". Its not something typical of daddy boy or John/hustler would say.
| by Anonymous | reply 38 | August 17, 2018 3:51 AM |
Are you Gen OP? Handsome young guy in college just needs a few buck for rent. Not pushy, very genuine, non-threatening guy here.
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 39 | August 17, 2018 4:06 AM |
I don't even pay for cable. So, ...
| by Anonymous | reply 40 | August 18, 2018 5:45 PM |
I’m cheap with eveything. I’m always curious how low I can negotiate hustlers - never hurts to ask. A lot get offended and act like Queen Elizabeth - but sometimes you get lucky and they are just looking for some $ to justify their behavior.
| by Anonymous | reply 41 | August 18, 2018 6:02 PM |
R26, R27 = too nelly to ever get laid once sends pics so loves to engage in endless emails.
| by Anonymous | reply 42 | August 18, 2018 6:24 PM |
Why pay for sex? Sure you might get a great looking guy but don’t your want your sex partner to desire you as much as you do him?
| by Anonymous | reply 43 | August 18, 2018 6:52 PM |
Oddly no R44 . A nice working dick on a hot body - the rest is all mental.
| by Anonymous | reply 44 | August 18, 2018 7:09 PM |
I've met guys who do that-- hustle older guys for cash on Grindr.
They're not looking for big bucks- $50 or $100 will do.
That said, they are the sort of guys who'd also lift your credit card or watch or phone.
Professional whores likely a better option.
| by Anonymous | reply 45 | August 18, 2018 7:26 PM |
Are you sure they don't mean genuine? An equally ridiculous question... What kind of reply do they expect? "No I'm not, I'm a compulsive liar wasting your time".
| by Anonymous | reply 46 | August 18, 2018 7:42 PM |
R43 is right. Unless you are deformed there's someone out there for you. I've never paid for sex and wouldn't know how to do it. You either desire me or you don't.
I'm an average guy, kind of bearish and with a pot belly. I still get laid every week no money involved. You gotta know your target audience it's not that hard.
| by Anonymous | reply 47 | August 18, 2018 7:47 PM |
R47 you mean lower your standards? Johns don’t wanna do that lol
| by Anonymous | reply 48 | August 18, 2018 7:52 PM |
You have to pay for everything in this world. Even water.
| by Anonymous | reply 49 | August 18, 2018 7:55 PM |
[quote]Hey OP, just beware of the boys that call you Daddy or Pa or Papi. They are buttering you up for something
I don’t find those terms flattering.
| by Anonymous | reply 50 | August 18, 2018 7:58 PM |
I love that some people really don’t know what “Gen” means - yeah “genuine” - lol. Oh - To be a sheltered naive gay boy again.
| by Anonymous | reply 51 | August 18, 2018 7:59 PM |
But OP, you haven't answered the question - are you gen?
Based on your complaint, I'm guessing the answer is a resounding no.
| by Anonymous | reply 52 | August 18, 2018 8:08 PM |
To be fair, R39, most of the people he killed were not his clients.
| by Anonymous | reply 53 | August 18, 2018 8:09 PM |
If you’re poor and can’t make ends meet then it’s understandable that you wouldn’t wait to pay.
$200 is nothing to a lot of people. It would be like paying for a dinner and show.
| by Anonymous | reply 54 | August 18, 2018 9:11 PM |
Believe me or not (up to you) I am 50+ and in good shape, but look my age. I just had over for the umpteenth time a beautiful Dominican man in his mid 20s and yes I am gen with an amount of cash that is equal to dinner for 1 at Applebees! Yes true. He is a amazing top and he always comes before I do, and he makes sure I come too. A better lover than many of the guys I have had over the years. He goes to college and appreciates the "gen" papi. He identifies as gay and maybe has a thing for older guys, but I really do not ask or care. It is sex and only sex. I have been seeing him off and on, for almost a year now. I work long hours and really enjoy the mindless sex with a hot bodied stud. Gen is not for just for working hustlers, it is for guys with Daddy issues or Daddy attractions and it sweetens the pot for them. This is guy doesn't hustle, in fact, on two different occasions, he left the money on the sofa and did not sweat it, just told me to hold it until the next time he sees me.
| by Anonymous | reply 56 | August 18, 2018 9:37 PM |
My partner had this friend who was uber-successful, certainly what would be considered an A-list gay, here, in Toronto. He could not form any relationship other than, what an earlier poster referred to as "mercenary" ones. It was always some kind of hustler, or a basket case of some sort. His company transferred him to London, a great job, a great flat near Holland Park, and what does he do? He brings over this Iranian hustler who he had met while the latter was working as a barman in Toronto (illegally, of course), sets him up in his luxury pad, pays for him to attend the Vidal Sassoon Academy (!) and, all while doing all that for him, the hustler is seeing and fucking Aidan Quinn and telling the older guy about it. When my partner and I visited him while in London, he brings his whore boyfriend to dinner with us, and the hustler kept berating him in front of us, all while being high maintenance and the older sucker taking it like a champ and footing the bill. What people get out of such relationships is beyond me - my partner asked him point blank that same question and got silence in return.
| by Anonymous | reply 57 | August 18, 2018 9:55 PM |
Aidan Quinn, the actor? or Aidan Shaw, the British porn star from the 90s?
| by Anonymous | reply 58 | August 19, 2018 12:25 AM |
Aidan Quinn sort of came out of nowhere there..... ??
Offsite Link| by Anonymous | reply 59 | August 19, 2018 12:28 AM |
Aidan Quinn has been married since 1987 and has 2 kids, must be Aidan Shaw....
| by Anonymous | reply 60 | August 19, 2018 12:39 AM |
Is it fair to say you're "paying for sex" if you get massages with happy endings? Or is that considered something different?
| by Anonymous | reply 62 | August 19, 2018 1:05 AM |
people who give "massages with happy endings" = sex workers
| by Anonymous | reply 63 | August 19, 2018 1:33 AM |
If you’re a guy looking to hook up with another guy, you have slim pickings to begin with. If you’re a bottom looking for a top, even fewer options, as most guys are looking for the same thing. If you’re over 40, not fit/ripped, black or Asian, and not “masc”, you have even fewer options still.
The “gen” arrangement arises from high demand for fit, mostly top men, men in their 20’s/30’s. The demand for these guys far outstrips their supply, so they are a commodity. As such, some 50 year-old effeminate bottoms, who don’t get a lot of interest or attention from gay men, are willing to pay these guys for sex.
I don’t think it’s controversial or anything to be ashamed about.
| by Anonymous | reply 64 | August 19, 2018 1:52 AM |
If you go to some of the hooker sites, some of those guys are so incredibly unattractive, I don't think I'd have sex with them if they paid ME. I don't understand it at all. They want $150-300.... no thanks.
I've hooked up with guys who weren't into me and just wanted to get off & leave - it's always a turn off and I always regret it. I don't know if I'd ever pay for sex. I do not have a high sex drive, though. So, maybe I can live without it more easily.
| by Anonymous | reply 65 | August 19, 2018 1:58 AM |
R65 there is a special whore for everyone's taste.
| by Anonymous | reply 66 | August 19, 2018 2:01 AM |
Curious-- those of you who have paid for an escort who was much younger/hotter than you -- was the sex worth it? Did he seem like he was into you and enjoying it or did it seem like he couldn't wait for you to cum so he could collect his money and leave?
| by Anonymous | reply 67 | August 19, 2018 2:08 AM |
only the one time, dear R67? It runs the full gamut, like unpaid sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 68 | August 19, 2018 2:11 AM |
My favorite are the johns who just want to eat your ass or your piss
| by Anonymous | reply 69 | August 19, 2018 2:15 AM |
There was one and only one time I was tempted to hire someone while traveling - who was extraordinarily hot. Nobody really looked like him & he would've been the best looking guy I've ever had sex with in my life (I'm more of a face person but he had a hot body too).
However, he turned into the world's biggest flake - changing dates around - not replying when I was trying to confirm things - but expecting me to reply in 2 seconds with ? ? ? ? hello ? ? ... and I was just like - fuck it, you're worse than some craigslist slut. I don't need to pay to get that behavior.
| by Anonymous | reply 70 | August 19, 2018 2:36 AM |
Gen exists on Grindr, that's why so many ask for it, bada boom.
| by Anonymous | reply 71 | August 20, 2018 1:44 PM |
R51 I'm quite happy to be naive about this sort of stuff, it all seems awfully sad.
| by Anonymous | reply 72 | August 20, 2018 2:03 PM |
I like being Gen...don't need to be, but it totally turns me on!
| by Anonymous | reply 73 | August 20, 2018 2:06 PM |
Thank you R73, nice to know there are others out there who are kind to others (younger and hotter).
| by Anonymous | reply 74 | August 20, 2018 2:21 PM |
