R200 It's quite natural for one to think that, but I know three adoptees who wanted nothing to do with their "original" cultures. I know of several who adopted, all cases the children were Asian, a female Korean infant, a Chinese male young boy, and a Vietnamese female infant.

In each of these cases, the Jewish adoptive families were very much interested in these cultures, and wanted their children to to have a connection. The Korean girl came from a well known agency which only dealt with Korean children, held summer camps, and even offered organised trips to Korea for adoptees, and their families.

Only much later in life as a young woman, she began to have a vague fleeting interest in Korean culture, yet never wanted to visit Korea. Wasn't a fan of the cuisine either. Oddly enough, this agency has many former adoptees who become adoptive parents for Korean children. She and her husband did choose to adopt, but chose a Chinese boy. He's learning English, and they're happy, yet he isn't very affectionate, and may not bond as closely as she had with her family. (most likely due to his age, he was in an orphanage)

The Chinese child had rejected anything and everything Chinese. His parents had sought out a Mandarin speaking Psychologist for him when he was young, and his English was poor. As soon as his language improved, he no longer wanted to speak Mandarin, and demanded a different counselor. His parents were very much into Chinese art, and history, and exposed him to much, yet he has a very bad view of Chinese people, and wants everything to be Western. He claims to hate Chinese food as well. He's doing well otherwise, yet has no Chinese friends, and has extreme views on the current situation in China. He's callously Anti-Chinese.

The Vietnamese girl was also introduced to her culture by way of some Christian friends of her parents. Their friends' church had sponsored, and helped several Vietnamese families emigrate during the 1970s and 80s. She later told her adoptive parents she hated them for dragging her to meet these other Vietnamese, felt it was forced, and was embarrassing. Perhaps because they had their families, and she did not? Who can say now. She does have an appreciation for Vietnamese food, and ate much of it visiting those other families when she was young. That's her only real connection to her culture however.

Both the Korean girl and the Vietnamese girl learnt their mums were prostitutes. I've often wondered if that has anything to do with their resentment of their own cultures. I don't think there are easy answers as regards culture. The two women have married Jewish men. The Chinese fellow is still somewhat a young man, and single, yet he has never dated any Asian ladies.